Meditation! The first step to healing is to get to know yourself, and the best way to do this is through daily meditation. Sit with your thoughts, observe them without judgement, and then release them. Doing this will lead you to inner stillness, a.k.a. meditation.
- Sitting With Your Thoughts – At first meditation can be a little scary, especially if you’re new to it. You’re going to notice tons of unwanted thoughts that are going to try to control your mind. Well guess what, you are not your mind. As these thoughts start to creep in and seem to be a never-ending mess, remind yourself that you are not these thoughts or your mind. You are the vessel through which they flow. You can have complete control over this, but this takes a lot of practice and patience.
- Observe Without Judgement – When thoughts start to flood your mind, let them. Let them float around without judging them. An example of this would be having a thought about a pet who passed away recently. This thought can bring emotions of sadness and depression. Your job here is to just observe that you are having this thought. If you just let that thought be, without letting it effect you in any way, you become closer to meditation.
- Release the Thoughts – Once you observe your thoughts, you can start to dismiss them individually. By not letting your thoughts have an emotional effect on you, you’re making it easier for yourself to dismiss them. Once your brain realizes that you are unaffected, it will move on to the next thought, which you can then continue the ‘observe and release’ technique until your thoughts eventually stop. When thoughts can no longer be ‘heard’, you have reached meditation.
Unless you plan on becoming a Monk and practice meditation 24/7/365 for the rest of your days, you will experience thoughts. But as you meditate more and more, your thoughts become very limited to where it becomes super easy for you to get into a deep meditation.
How to Meditate
- Bring yourself to a quiet space where you cannot be distracted by the outside world. (Yes this includes not touching your cell phone.)
- Sitting in a chair, in my opinion, is the easiest way to start. You can eventually graduate to sitting Indian Style, lying down, or whatever way is comfortable for your body, but I suggest starting in a chair. (You want to have extremely good posture so that your breath can flow evenly throughout your body.)
- Keep you eyes closed without forcing them to stay shut. If this is hard for you to do, this is where the breath comes in.
- Breathing is the most important part of meditation. Try to breathe in your nose and out your nose, just loud enough to where you can hear your breath, but not loud enough to where you’re blowing snot rockets everywhere. By breathing like this, it gives your mind something to focus on other than your thoughts. If you find your thoughts are spiraling out of control, implement the ‘observe and release’ technique and then bring yourself back to your breath (even if this means breathing a little bit louder.)
- Once you bring your awareness back to your breath, you can then sit in meditation for as long as you want to. The more you practice, the better you become, and the easier it will be for you to fall into a deep meditation.
The benefits of meditation are endless. It has helped me become more calm, I have a clearer head when dealing with real life situations, and it makes my inflammation less noticeable. I started out with meditating once a day for about 10 minutes. That’s all it takes! Make time for yourself even if you are drowning in errands and trying to juggle life. Take a step back, pause, and meditate. Trust me you won’t regret it. Good luck!